Nuggets of Knowledge, Part 3: You Are Not Alone and You Got This
In part 3 of this 3 part series we continue to share Nuggets of Knowledge from our upcoming book, H.O.M.E: Strategies for Making Home a SUCCESS during and after treatment.
Nuggets of Knowledge are shared through the book as salient takeaways, reminders and moments to revisit throughout this process. We invite you to explore in ways that fit for you, your values, and your uniqueness. There is no right or wrong way to approach this journey, though we will always encourage you to identify what challenges and encourages you along the way.
In part 3 we remind you that you are not alone... and you got this!
You are not alone...
You are not alone and there are likely people in your community in the same situation as you who are afraid to talk about it.
While you do not have to minimize your grief by comparing it to the suffering of others, you can remember Helen Keller’s message that the world is full of suffering as well as the overcoming of it.
AND you got this…
Action steps are a must if you want to make genuine change.
It is your responsibility as parents to create the container that best fits your child at this time and own the guardrails or scaffolding that you put into place.
As you're trying on these news skills and language it is not uncommon for your child to say that you sound like a therapist. Claim it and say, “well, that is because I learned this through therapy and the work I am doing, and I think it is important.”
Even if you think that you have already talked through your child’s frustration about your decision to intervene and have him out of your home, it will resurface and it is normal. It will be triggered in various ways during the first several months following a transition. Your job is to listen and to say, “we really hope that you feel differently one day and that you can see it from our perspective, but we understand that you can’t right now.”
Carl Jung who worked closely with Campbell to explore myth and psychoanalysis, espoused, “I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become.”
We share these Nuggets as a place to start and look forward to you reading the book in its entirety!